Fiancé and I are in the car, listening to the radio.
Me:: What is this song about, how hard it is to be a white man?
Him:: Well, it actually is hard to be white and male. There's all those scholarships and programs to help people who aren't.
Me:: Those programs are there to level the playing field, not raise anyone up above the other.
Him:: But you don't have to do anything to get the help. You just have to fit the qualifications. If you're white, you have to apply yourself extra hard and actually prove yourself instead of just sitting around.
Made me feel sad. Like my non-white-male status was a burden for him. Like maybe I was making a mistake in marrying him.
Unfortunately, and sadly, he is right.
You had to be black to take part in black history month in my school. You also had to be “of ethnic origin” to receive a large scholarship. White people, and only white people, didn’t get it. It completely misunderstands the concept of the scholarships. It doesn’t level the playing field, it instead tips the balance on the seesaw and gives a different group privaleges over another group.
If you’re poor in my country you get money for going to college (age 16-18, “stopping on high school”). If you aren’t their definition of poor, you don’t. That meant my friends were getting paid to go to college. I didn’t have that incentive. (And no, my parents could not afford to pay me, because they didn’t get benefits like the poorer folk did. High income, yes, but a mortgage to pay, taxes, and various other things out of their control).
I like the idea of giving people benefits and scholarships to “level the playing field” if it does that. But it doesn’t, at least, not how it’s set up at the moment.
Well, you’ve opened my eyes. Obviously I didn’t deserve that $1000 bursary that pretty much only paid for my food all year, and nothing else. I obviously should have gone without food just so I could go to college. Or without a place to stay. Or, you know what, maybe I should have just not gone to college. Obviously I don’t deserve it as much as you middle-class kids do.
Thanks for the reblog but last year I had £10 a week to spend on food and am still trying to find a way to pay for the past two years of university. I nearly didn't apply for next year because of it.
Middle class does not mean privaleged.
But thanks for making me feel bad.
My cousins and friends all have more expendable income than my family because they all get benefits that we aren't entitled to because we're "rich". My parents sit pretty much £100 over the cut off, but pay as much in bills and taxes as anyone else.
I did not say you didn't deserve that bursary there. Just that everyone, regardless of their race or financial status deserves it. They're doing exactly the same thing.
It got to the point last year where if my Dad accepted a bonus of over £100 he would have lost far more than that in benefits. How is that right?
I guess everyone needs a fucking bad guy in their life even if that is "the middle class".
tl;dr:
"Middle class people do not deserve any benefits because they are already privaleged."
Discuss.