Dealing with a broken heart?

[Erichermit]

To be brutally honest, if your heart was really broken you can't fix it. If this was just a girl you liked a little you'll get over it, but if you feel that you really truely were in love with her then you shouldn't be able to get over it, not to be a downer or anything.

All I know is that I'm with the woman of my dreams atm and if I ever lost her I don't know what I'd do. I'm want to ask her to marry me but it'd seem a tad obsessive if I did. >_>;;;

I'm 16, and that was basically how I felt. I even considered marrying her someday. Damn I was so obsessed I was say I loved her when nobody was around, or close my eyes and say "She's perfect."

Yeah... I suck and got WAY too attatched. Probably why she broke up, I probably drove her away with being so attatched. *sigh*

I was feeling better, then yesterday a bunch of letter fell out of my backpack, all the letters she had written me. That didnt help... =( I hope I don't find more stuff like that.

But I'm getting better slowly, so I know I'll get over it eventually.

 

[Erk]

Well Eric, it's tough, but you're young. It will be good to be able to move past it at your age when things are still easy to take. Wait until it is someone you are actually seriously planning to marry at an age where you're expected. Or wait until you have kids.

I know that doesn't make it easier, but nothing really can. The only person who can get you through it is you. Remember that you have value as a person beyond how you relate to a significant other.

 

[Rare]

Mope around the house, wear black clothing, dye your hair black and grow out your bangs, then listen to My Chemical Romance.

MCR is NOT EMO. I for one think its a very good band.

Get another girl. This time, better.

 

[clansman]

beat the meat, its the only way forward

 

[BoysVsGirls]

MCR is emo, get over it.

Sorry for offtopic. >_>;

 

[Despain v.1]

beat the meat, its the only way forward

seconded

 

[Diegoale2000]

I'd go right now, and while im in the rebounce I'd get some random person, and mess with them, nothing serious, just some fun, if the person's really good, you'll probably forget about the other one
that also works for when you're bored

 

[Erichermit]

MCR is NOT EMO. I for one think its a very good band.

Get another girl. This time, better.

Well, I don't really want another girl right now, since I don't know any appealing to me right now. I'll get a new one later.

I know I sound like some emo baby complaining about this =P My main problem right now is accepting the fact, It just felt so... "meant to be" in my mind (even though I don't believe in fate or "The one" or anything like that.) She seemed so perfect to me, and I can't imagine anything better really, but I'm sure i'll find it eventually..

 

[Vember]

No one dies a virgin; life fucks us all.

 

[Erichermit]

Heheh, yeah ive heard that before. Someone on my MSN always has that as their quote

 

[WeAreSuperhero]

With all these sad stories i feel silly for feeling bad after my prom date had to back out on me.

 

[Dopples]

If finding stuff about your girlfriend is hard for you, ask your mom to go through your room and get all the stuff. Not only does it ease heartache, it tricks your mom into doing a bit of cleaning. HOWEVER, don't do this if you have,

A.A porn stash
B.Devices of torture or general evil
Or C.A dead hooker.

Just a tip :P

 

[holydemon]

just find someone else better than her/him.

 

[Erichermit]

Holydemon, I can't imagine anything better than her.

Ive already gone through my room.

I keep just, wishing she'll take back. It's a stupid thing to wish for, but I hope and hope that she will take me back some day, which of course has to be soon or I know it wont happen ever. This is the LAST thing to do, and i'm not going to get my hopes up to high, but what's the best thing to do to help her decide that she might still like me? SHe told me earlier she was still confused about whether or not she did.

I'm of course, avoiding her and not doing any stalkerish things, trying to come to school this tuesday looking better than normal, but I doubt any of that will really help =/

This is the worst I've ever felt in my life, which isn't right. I live a generally very happy life where very little goes wrong, so I am generally always happy. But when something like this happens, well I just don't know what sadness is really, and it hits me hard.

 

[Erichermit]

Well I'm feeling almost completely better now. I wrote all my bad feelings into a word doc that I sent to noone, and then I realized I don't need her to feel happiness, and it was stupid of me to base my emotions on what a girl did.

I'm still a bit sad and miss her of course, but im through being all anguish and whatnot. I actually feel Happy =)

Thanks for caring guys, This is the end of the advice I need.