Your Theories About Love?

[Axerax]

no offense, but that was one of the dumbest analogies i've ever read (first post)


love is just interest and physical attraction. neither one really last all too long, either. relationships that last longer than that interest are probably either really compromising, or just really dull

Can't win em all. Anyways it was supposed to be a humorous outlook at it. Not really being serious. But hey it works.

There is a big difference between infatuation and love. You can have infatuation with anyone and it not mean a thing to the other person... Example... having a crush on a Celebrity. They will live their life just the same as they have been, while you are still gawking at them...

Love is more like that infatuation causes the same affect to the other person and can change their life.


I personally don't think you are "Fruity" that is what love or infatuation can do to you. I've felt it many times before, and even more so with my current girlfriend. So don't feel ashamed... if anyone tells you otherwise, they have a problem with their own sexuality comforts and need to get a check to reality... everyone feels it no matter what your sexual preference may be...

 

[JakeyZombie]

Love? Hah I'm 15 and that is definitely NOT in my vocabulary. ^_^, I cho0se to love one person, he's always right by my side, when I call he's there and everything, god I love myself.

I definitely thought you were gay for a moment.

 

[Venetia]

no offense, but that was one of the dumbest analogies i've ever read (first post)


love is just interest and physical attraction. neither one really last all too long, either. relationships that last longer than that interest are probably either really compromising, or just really dull

That was quite the trolling message there. Tsk.

Some may think you're quite narrowminded to think that way. Love can be described any number of ways, and I thought Axerax's analogy wasn't bad, especially since he explained it.

Some may consider narrowmindedness as being "dumb". Also, not using proper capitalization and murky grammar can be construed as "dumb". I wouldn't say you're "dumb", I'm just trying to level the playing field.

Love is what you make of it. If you think that's it's all just animals shooting chemicals at each other, then obviously you've never felt it.

Intense emotions and irrational loyalty are trademarks of the human condition and you shouldn't trivialize them. Without them we wouldn't have bad things like religious zealots, adultery, and wars, but with them we have art, marriage, compassion, honesty, and the many things that make us who we are.

Feeling strong emotions toward someone other than yourself isn't being "fruity", it's being unselfish.

Unless you're very unlucky, you'll all feel that way at one point or another in your lifetime.

And yeah, G-Man, loving yourself is the first step towards loving another, and don't worry about it anyway because 15 is too young !

 

[G-man]

I definitely thought you were gay for a moment.

lol trust me if you met me in real life... heh and as for love I think I did feel it one day... when I first saw her I had to have her, so I took my 500$ to the desk and brought my Xbox360, every since then me and her have had a perfect year together, though a another girl plagues my thoughts, and I don't want to hurt my 360, it's a friend I know very well who is trying to have an affair with me, the PS3 :D
P.S. I sure wish I could write extensive posts I gotta work on that.

 

[4StarGeneral]

There's many people who have their own opinions about what love is, it's a fact. But, it's also a fact that many people don't actually know what love is.

Love is...when you will do anything for another, not because of physical attraction, nor of hoping it will get you somewhere. Love is something you can have not only for one person, but for friends and family too. (Don't think so narrowmindedly...)Love is...complicated.

I would explain furthur, but it would become very difficult to comprehend, like the meaning of the universe...Hopefully you get what I am saying.^_^
Pretty sure Venetia does.:thumb:

 

[G-man]

BORING, where are my players at ^_^? I'm sure they know all about L-O-V-E

 

[Reives]

Sorry G-man, but I'm pretty sure that X-boxes are male and PS3s are asexual.

 

[G-man]

! Oh....my....god....I need to...what...that wasn't...

 

[lunarea]

Love is a connection you have to another person, be it because they're a parent, a friend or that special someone you want to share your time with. And I really wish that the English language had more than one word to describe the many forms love comes in.

But we're talking about romantic love, so ...

I think romantic love is all about the little things. You can be compatible with thousands of people: you can have amazing connections, irresistible attractiveness and click on hundreds of levels. But your loved one has these little things they do that make them unique. Maybe she hums a little song when she's tying her shoes, or starts dancing whenever her favorite song's on the radio. Maybe he makes a really goofy face at you when he's trying to make you smile, or he grumbles about driving to get take out but then comes back with an extra fortune cookie for you.

These are things that become private jokes that people outside your own little world don't get. These are things that make you smile instantly whenever you think of them (no matter how bad of a mood you're in). These are also the things you miss the most when your loved one is away. And these are things that last over time.

I think people sometimes forget about these and think that love has to be big, complicated and all-encompassing feeling that leaves you little or no room for anything else. They end up disappointed because while that overbearing "I yearn for you~" feeling is there at the beginning, it fades. I don't think we would be able to function if it didn't. But people mistake that for love and think they need to move on when it's gone.

Love is something that's built over time. It's strengthened through a close and positive relationship. It goes through many stages (look up triangular love theory, for example), and takes many forms. But at the end of the day, it's all about that funny little way she furrows her brow when she's trying to figure something out, or the funny little way he laughs out loud (even though he was dead serious 5 seconds ago) when you do something adorable.

 

[LordEliwood0009]

Hmm..well..that was actually quite intriguing on how you all think of it. I really have had only crushes on many girls. I am almost 17, and am trying to plan my future.

My opinion of romantic love is this. Love is a feeling that is felt between two people. When this happens, several things begin to occur. Most of the time, the two lovers will spend more and more time together, eventually spending more time with each other than others. Sometimes, they will do anything for the other person, just to show how far their love for them will go.


Most romantic love relationships begin when two people feel things beyond that of an ordinary friendship. Eventually, they begin to share most of the same mutual feelings for things. Like all relationships, there will be times of tension and fighting, but if they get past it, their bond strengthens. It is also give & take. With love, if only your partner is doing all of the hard work while you laze around or do nothing, they will begin to think that you don't care. It can also work the other way around, with you feeling that they do not care if you do all of the hard work in the relationship.

If you feel upset because the person you like is not around, and they felt the same way when you met with him/her again, this could be a sign of a deeper relationship forming. This is a good time to begin talking with that person. Most love relationships develop better and faster through conversation. In fact, any type of relationship gets started by talking. Once you talk more and more, you may discover the things that sparked the romantic relationship.

To sum all of this up..romantic love is very much like a skyscraper, in that you need a good solid foundation to start on. Then once you have the foundation, you need to build up the framework that will become the relationship. Then reinforce it with your similarities. Next comes building up the floors and internal structure with your common goals. Build up the outside walls with you and your partner's interests and hobbies. Depending on how strong you build this relationship "skyscraper", it can even withstand the most trying of times (the types of things that would break most relationships, like hurricanes and tornadoes ripping down the skyscraper.)

My analogy of love is that love is similar to the construction of tall skyscrapers.

 

[G-man]

hey you actually didn't sound like a weirdo in this post...good job! Like I said love is complex, and something I'm not ready for, so I just chose to love that guy In the mirror I see everyday 24/7 ^_^

 

[LordEliwood0009]

I'm not yet ready for true love just yet...and I know when to have serious discussion. I find it true that you have to love yourself before you are ready to love that special someone. If you do not care about yourself, others easily see that and try to avoid you.

That I learned the hard way.

 

[Fallofthetyrant]

Ah Kids, love is hmm love is honor, dedication, trust, confidence, caring, understanding, LOTS of communication, always being there for the other person.
Be always honest, and you'll be honest to yourself.
Also, learn to know the person deeply, and not just the outside.

 

[Zodiac]

Love is a fire. Burns down all that it sees, burns down everything... everything you think burn down, everything you say.

 

[sixtyandaquarter]

I've seen people try to equate love to chemical imbalance. Saying it's the same as eating large quantities of chocolate. But no one ever was willing to take a bullet for large quantities of chocolate (and if they did please don't tell me, I think the world is foolish enough as it is, thanks). Therefore, it's not the same I'd say.

I've never been in love so I can't say what it is - but the only explanation I've ever heard that made any sense was that it was unexplainable. You either do or don't love, and your never quite sure which one until you love, and it hit's differently every time.

 

[CIPWM74]

Something Strange: I can fall in love with anyone at will. It's true, Whenever I look at a girl, I can say to myself "Hmm...She's nice, pretty etc." and instantly I start to fall in love for some reason. Creepy, no? Or is it something else?

 

[Venetia]

That's either lust or admiration, IMO. I don't think love happens overnight. To me, it's something that's developed over time, and is worked on, like a really detailed painting or something.

You can be infatuated with someone, and certainly, that'll lead to love, but if you'd step in front of a train for that person when you don't even know their last name, you might have dependency issues ;').

 

[sinisterbutt]

My girlfriend and i have been together for 2 and a half years. Ive stood by her even when her best friend, who got us together, decided to try to ruin our relationship and failed, and all her friends started leaving her either out of jealousy or stupidity, through some very rough times, and some pretty big fights, but weve pretty much never had a break from each other, never gotten sick of each other, and id say the "butterfly feeling" is still in effect, ive done my best to see her at every possible moment, even though she lives a good 45minute drive out of town and ive nearly destroyed my car going to see her every weekend lol (kangaroos can really trash a cars body, and potholes a great at destroying suspension). And shes gonna defer a year to wait for me to finish my apprenticeship so we can both go together to the city so she can attend colledge. If that aint love i dunno what is.
I really think Venetia, youve hit the nail on the head about the whole topic.

 

[Anonymous]

psychological attachment, fear of being alone.