Diegoale, here's the answer:
Do not go to people on this forum for help. Firstly, as you would probably expect, this wonderful community is saturated with emotional cripples and rejects (God help us). Secondly the internet is just a bad place to look for help because it's impossible to convey to someone purely by written correspondance the complexities of any complicated situation involving people. It just doesn't work. In any case, all anyone gets as advice online is what other people would do in your situation. For one thing, there aren't that many people that would be in your position, and what would work for them probably wouldn't work for you.
The only advice I think anyone could offer for you is to give another light to look at the situation in. Here we go. You, Diegoale, are a
prettyboy. Most people with therefore automatically nicer or bitchier to you; in any case, you are likely to recieve different treatment from other people. It's very important that you realise this. Next, you've got to consider the fact that people generally like to get closer to and are fonder of attractive people. (By the way, I'm not just pulling this out of my arse, this is widely documented social mechanics). People will
want to like you. Next, whenever someone people has sex, (if it's good), they generally begin to romanticise the features of their partner. The person themselves seems to be funnier, kinder, better. And the charactaristics of that person also become set as positive in other people - in terms of personality
and body. This is particularly pronounced in early sexual encounters, and particularly when people lose their virginity. If someone enjoys their first time, then later in life they will look for the charactaristics of that person in partners, and vica versa.
If you put all that together with the context of your situation, then maybe it'll make more sense. (Or, more likely, it'll just seem even more confusicating). I don't know how much sex she had before you, but you can't have been
that far down on the list. In the time when she hasn't spoken to you, she's probably had a long time to think about your more attractive features, accentuated by the fact that you are a physically attractive person, and possibley the incredible sex you bestowed upon her :lol: Or perhaps this happened very recently. The point is that she's come to feel very
fond of you. The fact that she's about to leave and perhaps not see you again possibly moved her to make her peace with you; maybe at the time she began to feel what she felt for you before, but with an added something, (machurity?). Think about it.
Oh also, she could get any man she wanted, so why come to me an apologize? she can't be THAT needy, can she?
You underestimate yourself. You're probably tied up with memories of a good time to her. Probably.
As a side note, how much sex have you had in that auditorium? My god, if I went to your school, I would
not sit on those seats.
P.S. I do realise that I started this by saying how you can't take advice from people over the internet, and the proceeded to write what has turned into an essay. Well, I may be an emotional cripple and a reject, but I also happen to be fairly astute in these kinds of situations, and I hope I've made the distinction between actually telling you what to do and trying to shed some light on how these situations actually come up. Bear in mind that I
don't actually know you or this girl, and I might have got it disasterously, ruinously wrong. So don't blame me if you take this all as true and then it all blows up in your face. The only thing you can do is what you feel is the right thing to at each moment. All I'm going to say is that what's probably going on is a level of affection that's grown out of the good times you had and the time that's passed since then for you to become romanticized in her mind.
