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The Story of My Life

First and foremost, this is a serious topic. If you're planning on spamming, or not interested in reading, please take your bullshit elsewhere.

Where to start? Perhaps I should start by saying the only reason I'm writing this at HBGames.org is because I don't think my friends give a rat's ass about my personal life and I have nowhere else where to go. That being said, I hope you can find the story of my life, at the very least entertaining.

Her name is Gabriela. She's a brunette and she has beautiful black eyes. I've asked her out, twice, and both times she's said no. Strangely enough, she appears to like me. She gets upset if I don't talk to her. Rumors are she's dating someone, a young doctor. Gabriela is in my class. I'm a med student.

Gabriela is what you would call a family girl. She doesn't go out much. She doesn't drink. She doesn't smoke. She likes to run. She likes music and dancing. She's also particularly young for a fourth year med student and doesn't know much of the world. She's very much different to me. She's rigorously religious and I'm atheist. She's incredibly studious and I'm a slacker. She's popular and I have notorious fame for being an outcast. But her simplistic manière d'être captivates. She's not the smartest woman I've known. She's not the most beautiful woman I've seen. But in a rotten world like mine, her kindness is absolutely unique.

Stepping aside from this subject, I will now introduce myself. I'm 21-years-old. I live in Costa Rica. I study medicine. I'm a classical pianist. I smoke cigarettes. I drink beer and wine. I don't eat something if I don't like how it tastes. I love cooking and I love food. I love Frank Sinatra. I love classical rock. And I love spending time by myself.

I was watching Das weiße Band Saturday afternoon at a small theater in San José. Afterwards, I walked into a local bar to have a couple of beers and smoke clove cigarettes. I ended up getting drunk and picking up the bartender, a nice Venezuelan girl with a big smile. She gave me her phone number.

The fact is, I've been speaking about the last days of my life. The story of my life really begins seven or eight years ago. It begins with many sons of bitches whose names I don't even know, but managed to ruin my life. There are two sons of bitches whose names I do know, and these are Rafael Ángel Calderón Guardia and Miguel Ángel Rodríguez, both of them former presidents of the republic and personal friends of my father.

As it turns out, in a swift political movement, the people I've just mentioned were brought onto public trial in a very successful attempt to bring down the political party they represented. For those Americans who have no idea what the heck am I talking about, try to imagine Liberals breaking up the Democrats. Given my luck, my dad was involved in this political circus. I was 13 at the moment. The trial, to this very day, has not yet come to a fucking end.

As I'm writing this, I should be studying for a Psychiatry test, and I'm getting pretty tired. Summarizing my dad's life, which by extension is the story of my life too, he grew in a poor house, studied for over 20 years to become an internist, emergenciologist, intensivist and pharmacist, and got screwed over.

Among other things, my former girlfriend lives in Melbourne, and I still very much love her, studying my ass off has been a son of a bitch, since I suffer from recurring depressions, and since I don't have time for a social life, most of my friends have stopped talking to me. The only thing keeping me from killing myself is the thought of some day in the near future getting the fuck out of this country.

And still, here I am, trying to figure out why this girl won't go out with me.
 
Shit happens, maybe she's just nervous and because of the whole religion and family thing she needs to be certain that if she dates someone, she wants to date them seriously. You said that you're well known to be an outcast (Welcome to HBGames), and the atheism and the blahblahblahblah, maybe she's heard then and is hesitant. She might like you as a person, but for the reasons mentioned above shes unsure about dating you. i'm not one to give good advice, but you can either ask her directly why, you can either tiptoe around this and go all friend zone on her so maybe she can like you enough (hahahaha that's every friend zone resident's dream), or you can just forget about her and go to the venezuelan bar girl's phone number and try things out there. At worst, she can be the rebound :P

then again the girl just might be dating someone and you're deluding youself, while she just thinks of you as that friend zone guy already.

You've got some pretty shit stuff happening in your life man, or at least crap stuff that did happen. Hope things get better for you, and that you get laid. With a girl.
 

Twirly

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This might sound harsh but if you've asked her out twice already and she's said no both times, I think it's time to move on and there is plenty of fish in the sea.
Plus, she's in your class and dating with people in your class isn't a really good idea.
And stop being a total slacker if you are studying medicine, you are going to be a doctor and that job is serious as fuck. My brother is studying medicine too and he was a slacker, he failed like half of his exams already.
As for the social outcast thing, you should do something against it, i bet there are people in your class you could make friends with and shit, don't try to overdo it, a long journey starts with a single step I guess.
 

moog

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yeah GD is not a personal dating/advice forum. sorry man but ive seen this thread like 4 times and i dont particularly think it belongs here, but its making decent discussion so ill leave it open.
 
twirly":42lou65b said:
This might sound harsh but if you've asked her out twice already and she's said no both times, I think it's time to move on and there is plenty of fish in the sea.

^

This is a note from a chick about chicks:

A lot of them just like the attention. You came into the "relationship" (just, knowing her) with a disadvantage: She knows you want her. It's more fun for her to keep you at arm's length without making any commitments.

Even if a girl is sincerely nice, and she doesn't even consciously KNOW she's doing it, she will string a man along if she knows she'll get away with it.

If you want to be in a LOVE relationship with someone, you have to be clearly on the same "power" level. Relationships are ALWAYS about power struggles, even if you don't realize it or think it. It's about respect and the desire to improve or better yourself for someone else.

If you're the only one who's pursuing her, then why does she need to make any effort to respect you? To have a good, caring relationship (and I mean with friends, coworkers, lovers, --anyone--), you and your counterpart have to constantly strive to improve themselves for the other.

It sounds tiring, but think of it in a small way.
Like, let's take a guy and a girl. The girl wants the guy, and the guy wants the girl. The guy will style his hair the way the girl likes, so she is more pleased with him. She'll wear more blue if he says he likes blue. If the girl hates olives, he won't cook dinner with olives in it. If the guy prefers the toothpaste being rolled instead of squeezed, she'll modify her habits for him.

With dating, you can't be the only one pursuing. Even if you win, you will A-L-W-A-Y-S be in the inferior position. The chick will wonder if she could have done better, because she didn't even have to TRY to win you over.

If you ask her on a date and she says no, even once--I'd say it's time to move on. She is obviously not into it, if even on a small level. Find someone who wants you just as much as you want them.
 
tobacco goldfish":i7u89f3i said:
yeah GD is not a personal dating/advice forum. sorry man but ive seen this thread like 4 times and i dont particularly think it belongs here, but its making decent discussion so ill leave it open.
this one isn't too bad. it's not just "halp with girls pls!". and it's a well-explained situation. we can probably just let it chill until it's exhausted and then close or something :)
 
I don't see the problem really... stuff not working as planned is what makes life interesting. Asking for suggestions on what you should do, or trying to do this or that to make something happen is a way to handle a situation, but one that'll make you very miserable if it doesn't work out. Personally, I like to just see what the future brings - I wouldn't go about it as twirly would and "just move on", as when you really like someone, that's kinda just making you more down. But I don't see where the usual "talk to her" approach comes from either. Just live your life, make on-the-spot decisions, don't plan anything. Maybe you'll end up with her, maybe you won't... thing is, instead of wondering about stuff, making plans, trying to fit five million suggestions together or solve stuff by talking, you're likely to have a fun time in the process - with her, that is.

And don't forget that it's up to you to decide if that's a reasonable suggestion coming from a person like me ;)
 

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