social networking f-friends ....

[Venetia]

the average friend count on facebook is ~190 friends.
average twitter user has ~126 followers.


i have ... 38 friends
and even then i feel like some of the people on the list are barely acquaintances. just accepted them b/c they asked and i figured i'd be nice and add them.
i'd say i have maybe 10 people on my list who i would ACTUALLY consider FRIEND-friends.

am i completely anti-normal on that? it doesn't bother me very much, but my mind boggles at the AVERAGE user knowing ~200 people well enough to share their personal lives etc with them.
might have bothered me as a teenager, i guess. luckily, there was no such thing for me back then. i wonder how important it is to kids today?
(actually, thinking back on my personality as a teen, i probably would have avoided all social networking like the plague. i was such a rebel :shades: )


- how many friends and/or twitter followers (or other social networking contacts) do YOU have?

- of that number, how many would you consider your ACTUAL friends?
(i.e. not your grandma who guilted you into friending, nor exes, nor people you only know from work, nor people who you hung out with a few times in middle school----i mean people who you have either hung out with recently [and wanted to], or who you'd get excited about hanging out with at any random time. bfs/gfs/spouses/family/coworkers count only if you honestly truly love spending time with them and you would also call them a friend.)

- does your friend count affect you at all?
(e.g., you're bothered you don't have more; you wish you had less; etc.)

or do you just avoid all social networking altogether?

 

[Juan J. Sánchez]

Facebook friends: 197
Friends that I know: around 150
Friends that I like: around 50

I don't have a Twitter account.

I also don't use Facebook. I have it open so that I can see posts from University, study groups, and such.

 

[Mega Flare]

i has 98 friends on facebook. maybe like 10-12 of them are people i talk to and hang out with. the rest are ether just family or people i went to school with

 

[Fusty]

I don't use Facebook or Twitter, simply because I think it's a waste of time, I don't need to share every brainfart on the internet.

I've got around 30-40 people on Skype, I know most of them in real life, mostly friends and a few old classmates, but I've also got a few contacts whom I only know via the internet.
I do see some of them as my real friends though, imo it doesn't matter if you've met a person in the real world or not.

I also still use MSN sometimes but mostly to check whether I've got mail :p

 

[Ellie]

I have 62 tumblr followers and 77 facebook friends.

Actually that's worrying... I used to have ~240.

I don't use Facebook or Twitter, simply because I think it's a waste of time, I don't need to share every brainfart on the internet.

Anyone who does this is doing it wrong. Facebook and Twitter are just like the new version of email. It's about contact. I personally use Facebook to contact the local council, Twitter to keep up on train disruptions, etc.

 

[Toams]

282 facebook friends, don't have twitter
i hang out with about 100 of them, most of them i meet during uni hours
i'd consider about 10 of them close friends, but i have another circle between close friends and 'people i know'
there's this group of about 50 people that i can just spend the whole day with on random occasions, and tell them everything
idk those are near friends i guess

 

[Jason]

I have 69 friends on Facebook :x

I made a Twitter account to post ONE comment on someones tweet... yeah!

There are 5 of them I don't know in real life, and they're all members of this forum!

Of the remaining 64, I'd consider around 40 of them as my close friends that I can go out with and see them quite regularly, the other ones are people I know from school who I'm a little more distant with... so yeah.

HBGammers should add me on Facebook, I need moar internet buddies!

 

[dadevvtsvre]

I have 106 friends on Facebook but that number will probably go down to about 50 or so when I go to university and remove the people I don't talk to anymore.

Your average Facebook user will add every Tom, Dick and Harry that requests to be their friend. I had something like 250 friends but I came to the realization that I barely knew/never talked to the majority of them, was not a part of their lives, and did not associate with them. Ergo, why am I "friends" with them? They should redefine Facebook friends as "people you maybe talked to for 10 seconds at school or at a party."

Some people are obsessed with friend counts, though, which is ridiculous in every possible way. They literally think that having more friends on Facebook means you're a more sociable/better person. It means nothing but people will use it as an excuse to put themselves on a higher pedestal. "Oh, you only have 100 Facebook friends? I have 800 :smug: "

Bottom line? The only Facebook friends I have are the ones that I really care about. The ones I want to continue being friends with and to share my life with. Nobody has 500 friends that they maintain close, personal relationships with. 10 close friends > 100 acquaintances.

Social networking is mostly one giant popularity contest. Facebook friends mean fuck-all in the real world but there are millions of people that are desperately searching for ways to one-up their peers in the world's biggest dick-stroking. I love Facebook, but it really gives people the wrong idea about what kind of things we should value as a society. Being popular has nothing to do with if you're a good person or not. Facebook, intentionally or not, promotes the idea that instead of building strong, long-lasting relationships, we should focus more on having as many "friends" as possible, regardless of whether or not you care about those people.

 

[LiquidMetal91]

144 peeps on Facebook

Accept for 2, i've met everyone personally (either colleagues, friends, classmates or relatives)
One of the two is a girlfriend of a good friend of mine that just HAD to add me
The other one is RadethDart :D

About 60 peeps from FB i hang out with, but the most i only see on parties..
The people i regularly meet are only 5%, counting out relatives

And i use FB only as a media to reach people, for the aren't always answering their texts / whatsapp / calls, which bothers me, but i dont get to worked up about it.

I do have a certain amount of people i avoid adding though, but that is a whole different story xD

 

[Fayte]

I have 348 friends o.O
( I honestly never checked until I looked at this thread)

About a third of them are family and friends of the family, another third are kids I met while I was in school (elementary, middle school, etc.), and the rest are kids I became cool with after meeting them at parties and/or friends I became cool with through other friends. I only have like 6 or 7 people I could call my best-best friends. Oh, and 3 of my friends are comic book-business related.

I don't really care for the number of friends I have. Honestly, it's not how many you know but WHO you know that matters.

 

[Daxis]

Let's see
223 people on Facebook, around 20 of them are people that are of the people I'd love to hand out with, cuase they're friends of varying degrees. Probably 20-40 more of them are people that I totally was friends with, except lost contact with in the past... idk, year(s), so they used to be friends. At least 50 to 75% of the rest are people that I know or know of, and maybe at most 20-50 peeps are people that I honestly don't know.

I don't have an issue with social networking and privacy. The things I keep private are not my name, pictures, address, and I'm p sure I didn't put my number up there. There are way less things to be anal about: if they want to stalk and screw me over, they can do that way too easily for me to give a shit about. Also, some of the sharing stuff is fun, sorta tumblr-ish in nature, although I don't give a shit about internet memes and tumblr bores me. Don't really care. There's a whole bunch of basic psychology at work here, such as the red-on-blue notification system that makes you want to keep getting more friends and notifications, and right now I'm just indulging myself.

I'll be trimming my friends list pretty hard sometime this year, particularly as I go into uni, but one of the main reasons I haven't done so is because at least 75% of my friends list are people I had fun times with but simply got disconnected. Realistically we won't be connecting again, but just in case, I just let them there. The trimming will take down probably 100 friends at least.

 

[coyotecraft]

I had a myspace page then everyone moved to facebook. I use it to keep track of my sister, cause she doesn't bother to tell her family anything. Like once she posted that she was leaving in an hour to go out of state (with my car). I was upset since she didn't tell us her plans and I had just filled up the car with gas. So I drove off without telling her where I was going or when I'd be back.

I have 28 friends on facebook. Just relatives and class mates.

 

[RadethDart]

800 Friends on Facebook
Don't personally talk to any of them but my family: 6 people
Pointless? Yes...I think they add me to stalk me.

127 followers on twitter
Follow 325
Actually login and read posts/tweet a lot? No.
Pointless? Yes.

Haha, the internet is silly. I use it mainly for a source of learning everything, and working my mind. I am not a very internet social person...I would much rather have a good conversation in person.

 

[united washcloth express]

I have 215 friends and talk to most of them.

Even this one with red hair, glasses, and giant b-bazongas.

 

[9robin3]

Facebook friends: 208
Best friends of them: like 10-12 maybe. My super best friends are just 2-5.

I have many freinds on facebook because I add nice people I get to know on different other sites (dating sites, other social media sites etc). But there are many school people I don't really need to have, but I think its all about curiosity, and my school are a bit more open, "everyone" knows each other. But I also have my classmates so I can contact them now after I graduate this summer

But ofcourse many of them are unessecary

 

[Jason]

... dating sites?

:x

 

[Aepriz]

210 friends on Facebook, I do actually know and spoke to them all. But about 10 or 15 people I know are from Forums and such (I've got Jbrist in ma list, guess where I met him haha). All the others are from high school, college, student clubs, family or friends.

It's the only social network site I'm part of.

Anyways about 50 or so I consider "friends" but REAL friends? 4 (and I don't have to think long to name 'em). Anyways I'm not really bothered by my friend count.

Are you sure the average is 190? i'm bloody sure most have my friends have like 500+ in their list, haha.

 

[Jason]

You met me in that gay bar in Amsterdam, remember?

 

[Venetia]

I have 215 friends and talk to most of them.

Even this one with red hair, glasses, and giant b-bazongas.

i am honored to be friend'd to one so p-popular...............

whats funny is that i often repost things on fb that i also post in random places here on this forum so the fb friends who are also hb friends get to see double my stupid shit

grat;s

 

[Jason]

I do that too, but I only have 5 hbgammer friends