A fight Yesterday
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prodigium_doom
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This is a good recommendation. I would suggest Death Zombies or Immortal Baby Ravagers. Good stuff.|3_32 said:
But really, it may be best to let it run it's course. Whatever happens will probably happen regardless of your involvement.
It depends on the kind of fight they had ... If they injured each other hardly, this may be something that should be prevented from happening again. If it was 'just' (bad enough) a clap or something, it'd be best to discuss it out. Either way, you might have a talk with them on what they're going to do and tell them you don't want them to split ...
JonoSasson
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I would say guilt trip them...but god, don't do it. How old are you, if I may? I assume your parents aren't normally violent people/heavy drinkers?
You can try talking to them...maybe even suggest counselling? If you have a sit down with them, let them talk it out with each other, add your opinion or thoughts where necessary (mediate if you have to). If all works well, they'll realise that they've made a huge mistake, give you a huge hug and bake cookies.
But seriously, the last thing they want is to see you unhappy, I'm sure. You have to tell them what they're doing is upsetting, and you don't want to see them resorting to physical violence to get their message across. That's all I can really say...that and good luck, and I hope everything turns out for the best. Stay strong.
You can try talking to them...maybe even suggest counselling? If you have a sit down with them, let them talk it out with each other, add your opinion or thoughts where necessary (mediate if you have to). If all works well, they'll realise that they've made a huge mistake, give you a huge hug and bake cookies.
But seriously, the last thing they want is to see you unhappy, I'm sure. You have to tell them what they're doing is upsetting, and you don't want to see them resorting to physical violence to get their message across. That's all I can really say...that and good luck, and I hope everything turns out for the best. Stay strong.
JonoSasson
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Shit how come there's a double post?...anyway...you can be involved in this, and it may actually help to make the situation better. Their love for you is hopefully something that will keep them bound together for the rest of their life.
Yes quite, as things are unfortunately you are not able to do much to resolve the problem. You could possibly express your dissatisfaction with the way they go about arguing with each other by talking to them individually or sit them down together in a neutral environment, however I really doubt that anythink you would have to say would be taken sincerely to heart. But it may make them realise the fault of their ways.
It is a quarrel between your parents, and it is just one of those facts of life. Parents do argue and some times they can get physically or verbally abusive to one another. But whatever the cause don't let them believe that you are the reason for this happening. After all, you are only eleven years old.
But whatever you do, do not become demeaning in your actions, and do attempt to coherently express your fears to both of your parents. But do not become abrasive or over powering, because they could feel a bit threatened by the advances (if it is in good intention).
If push comes to shove, there is always marriage counsel as an option. You may suggest that to your mother and have her try to convince your father to attend. Hopefully they can work out their issues in front of licensed professional and not in front of you.
It is a quarrel between your parents, and it is just one of those facts of life. Parents do argue and some times they can get physically or verbally abusive to one another. But whatever the cause don't let them believe that you are the reason for this happening. After all, you are only eleven years old.
But whatever you do, do not become demeaning in your actions, and do attempt to coherently express your fears to both of your parents. But do not become abrasive or over powering, because they could feel a bit threatened by the advances (if it is in good intention).
If push comes to shove, there is always marriage counsel as an option. You may suggest that to your mother and have her try to convince your father to attend. Hopefully they can work out their issues in front of licensed professional and not in front of you.
You really shouldn't have to be exposed to that :/. As everybody else has said, just talk to them; possibly individually at first and then try to see what the problems between them are. Try to talk to them back and forth to work things out some and then try talking to them together. If all else fails, though, you can always try to get them to go to marriage counseling. Whatever the result however, don't beat yourself up over it. There's not much you can do. My parents are divorced as well and nothing I tried worked. I was a slightly younger than you and it was really hard on me in pretty much every way. Just keep your chin up through it all and make sure they know how you feel and that they know how each other feel so they can try to work it out and meet somewhere in the middle.
Brimstone-x
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Well, If I were in that situation it would become a triple tables ladders and chairs match, cuz if there fighting, I Don't like loud noise and after a while, I tend to snap, So yeah, I'd turn the music up louder.
Roman Candle
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It's not in your power to deal with issues that are between your parents. Whatever their problems together are, they'll have to work it out themselves. It's difficult to say more than that, really.
Mega Flare
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My parents are divorced. It happen when i was only 5 years old. Its had to get use to only having one parent around but you get use to it.
My parents are divorced, i didn't have a problem with it, mainly because my dad "used" to be abusive but not anymore.
Anyways, I don't interfere. EVerytime I interfere in a fight with my current parents I get told to "Shut up and go to your god damn room ." XD.
I don't really care unless its physical. My stepdad is most of the time right, in my pont of view.
Anyways, I don't interfere. EVerytime I interfere in a fight with my current parents I get told to "Shut up and go to your god damn room ." XD.
I don't really care unless its physical. My stepdad is most of the time right, in my pont of view.
Roman Candle
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Don't find loud music; find quiet music and turn it up so loud you can hear people walking around in the studio. It's much better.
My father had been an alcoholic almost all my life and my older brothers would get into fist and verbal fights with him. I would cry every time they would fight. him and my mom were never home (due to the military) and they would be gone for up to 3 years each. My suggestion is that dont hate them your your self. Look at the situation and learn from it. Now at 22 i have learned not to drink to escape my family and problems but to have fun . If you dont learn from where they went wrong then you too shall take the same path. Use your time to better yourself and help others, it has worked for me and i'm somewhat happy i still wish i had parents in my child hood but thats in the past and now my relationship is much better with my family .