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What's your choice, beauty? personality?

DJ

Some guy that did RMXP before
Member

Some days ago my friend forced me to hang up with a girl on SMS.
I talked with her, and she was pretty cute. and she was younger than me.
and she suddenly asked me to go out with her in the weekend. I said 'sure',
and she said 'Fuck off' and never respond. Yeah. she's got to be playing on me.
I thought she was very rude, and I also decided not to talk with her again.

The next day I went to school and argued with that friend about what the heck
is wrong with that girl. He said there's nothing wrong with her, and It might because
I did something wrong. But no, I didn't. sure. If i did, i haven't even argued with him.

Then some friends came up and said 'She's cute, so why don't you understand and
talk to her again? You know, being beautiful is the most important part of a girl.'
I said no, but they just came up with that word again and again.

But I don't agree. Even the girl looks like a Venus, I won't stick to her if she
have shitty mind or unacceptable potentials.

What do you think? Beauty, or Personality?
 

Spoo

Sponsor

It sounds all Disney-ish, but physical beauty is really only skin deep. I would not hesitate walking away from the most beautiful woman in the world if she acted like the girl in your case.
 

DJ

Some guy that did RMXP before
Member

Spooky":1px0e1xc said:
It sounds all Disney-ish, but physical beauty is really only skin deep. I would not hesitate walking away from the most beautiful woman in the world if she acted like the girl in your case.
yeah, that's what i exactly thought.
but still i wonder how many people would think like me or not.
 
Spooky":m0ouajqu said:
It sounds all Disney-ish, but physical beauty is really only skin deep. I would not hesitate walking away from the most beautiful woman in the world if she acted like the girl in your case.
Disney is the complete opposite.

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DJ

Some guy that did RMXP before
Member

GameBoy":14id2tgi said:
Both. And THEY exist.
True,
But I think that kind of girl is rather hard to find.
Also, I'm not confident with my looking so i have to
find someone who would like my appearance and personality
aswell.

Anyway, I'm not making a girlfriend for a while
and I'll use the idea i got from discussion when time comes.
 
It really only comes down to:

Do you want a fuckable best friend, or a fuckable trophy?

Some dudes really prefer the fuckable trophies. Makes the guy the envy of his friends/other dudes, and their trophy/girl will have nice-looking bits & pieces, which will probably remain nice-looking for a while. Sure, he may want to murder the chick every time she opens her mouth, and the stress will probably send the guy to an early grave, but what the hell, he has plenty of guy friends who envied him anyway.

Some dudes prefer fuckable best friends, though, who are awesome to be around all the time, and also have the benefit of offering intercourse.

Pretty girls CAN have awesome personalities. Doesn't seem to happen all that often, though, because chicks who prize vanity/physicality usually will fall into certain archetypes and neglect bettering themselves mentally/emotionally/etc.

That's not to say that anyone who prizes personality foremost is doomed to pretty much only ugly chicks, though. In fact in my experience, I find that the really ugly ones are also no fun to be around (HUGE self esteem issues, often "goth" or excessively morbid, depressed all the time, self-obsessed in a downer way, easily moody b/c they're socially stunted, etc).



But anyway, you're a teenager. Your goal should be in getting tail, anyway. You can worry about finding Ms. Right when you're older & ready to settle down :P
 
DJ":145qhmbg said:
Also, I'm not confident
Stop right there!

Confidence = #1 most attractive thing to women!

Work on your confidence first!

Then you can worry about attracting the right kinds of ladies!

Doesn't really matter WHAT you look like (within reason), you just have to carry yourself LIKE A BOSS.
 

benku

Member

Frankly i see em as i go they can be pretty or ugly take you're pick, but in the end it really is up to that persons personality.

Be it pretty or ugly,but if there personality is crap or cant connect there's no point in putting into something if you know the results no matter how good or ugly they look shouldn't matter just do what you think is right for you. Also i agree you need confidence because in the end its you who runs you're life.
 

Tindy

Sponsor

There has to be a mix of both. If she's peachy but you're disgusted by the sight of her... well, let's just say that bedtime fun won't be so fun.
Or exist.

And if she's gorgeous and leggy and looks like a porn star but acts like anyone from Jersey Shore, the sex'll be great!
Because you're probably having angry sex
Because you're angry
Because she's a bitch D:<

There's probably no such thing as love at first sight but there is most definitely "interest at first sight." And she doesn't have to be beautiful to warrant attention - maybe she's really bubbly, maybe she's really interesting. That first interaction is really what gets the ball rolling.



Also, second Veni x 10000 -- get confidence! EVERYONE looks better if they have confidence. Geeks with confidence? Sexy as hell. (...if only because the confident ones don't [usually] weight a million pounds and wash their face and hair, heh.)
 
Venetia":1uecnr24 said:
DJ":1uecnr24 said:
Also, I'm not confident
Stop right there!

Confidence = #1 most attractive thing to women!

Work on your confidence first!

Then you can worry about attracting the right kinds of ladies!

Doesn't really matter WHAT you look like (within reason), you just have to carry yourself LIKE A BOSS.
Goes both ways, too. I think it's safe to say that confidence is a really appealing factor to guys (except for creepy dudes who like submissive housewives.) A girl can be incredibly beautiful, but if she has zero confidence, or comes across as insecure, she's going to have a hard time finding a meaningful relationship. People that aren't very confident, in either their bodies or their personalities, are major turn-offs.
 

DJ

Some guy that did RMXP before
Member

Well .... It looks like that guys around me were wrong then! Just as i thought.

Venetia":34rvbbf9 said:
DJ":34rvbbf9 said:
Also, I'm not confident
Stop right there!

Confidence = #1 most attractive thing to women!

Work on your confidence first!

Then you can worry about attracting the right kinds of ladies!

Doesn't really matter WHAT you look like (within reason), you just have to carry yourself LIKE A BOSS.
LIKE A BOSS...... :eek:: Like, act myself more outgoing and be positive?

regi":34rvbbf9 said:
this thread is now HB Dating Advice from real girls :girl:
LOL.
 

Cait

Member

:blank: I always figure a slightly unappealing young woman can always grow more beautiful, but a beautiful woman, if they have an ugly personality, likely will never grow enough as a human being to be a completely beautiful person, inside and out. Besides, no matter how good looking a girl is, you have to consider that you have to talk to her once they lose their looks and if you can't stand their personality now... Well, it ain't going to get any better when her tits are saggy and she's complaining how you don't talk to her anymore. Plus, for some odd reason, motherhood always changes these women for the worse. Just saying that's the best advice that works with men and women, you can't talk to them, forget it.
 

Twirly

Sponsor

I'm gonna keep it real: looks are more important to me, when I'm searching for "the one" i want to have both. But right now I'm 16 soooo if her voice doesn't make my head hurt and she's hot, I'd go for it. But I guess I am still more sentimental than dudes my age, because damn some of my friends' gfs make me cringe just by talking :x
 
DJ":2m6kl33n said:
GameBoy":2m6kl33n said:
Both. And THEY exist.
True,
But I think that kind of girl is rather hard to find.
Maybe that's your problem right there... assuming that beautiful girls are tools and nice girls are ugly isn't exactly the nicest mindset to ho about this, I'd say.

And yeah, which is more important really depends on what you're looking for - if you're looking for a good time a single night, then go with pretty... chances of someone going bitchy on you the first day are compareatively small, and either way, the next day you'll have a better feeling if you at least made out with a looker.
Now if you're about making friends rather than sexmates, go with personality - peer pressure can be tough, but a good friend is worth losing 50 buddies any day... especially if they're saying you shouldn't be friends with someone just because she doesn't look like a cover girl.

And well, last but not least, if you're looking for a relationship, go with both. It's pretty simple: If you're asking yourself which is more important, that means you care for both - going with only one of them means you're missing out on something and will be unsatisfied at some point in the future.
 
one important thing i should repeat on this subject ... to both sexes, but especially guys:

play the field a little.

don't think that, as a teenager, you should be actively seeking a loving relationship, and that that relationship needs to last forever.

because people usually change SO MUCH between 16 and 25 ... it is ASTOUNDINGLY DRAMATIC in some cases. and also because you will suck at pleasuring yourself and others in a surprising amount if you don't develop some techniques and such from experimenting these sorts of things with an assortment of people.

for example: let's say that, for your whole teenage & adult life, you have made all of your meals. and every single meal you have ever made was done by a small stack of very bland recipe cards.
you know that macaroni & cheese involves elbow pasta, cheddar cheese, 2% milk, and butter. that is how it is made, and that is the only way you've ever made it.

but then one day, someone comes in and shows you that adding heavy cream makes it thicker & creamier. and another day, someone else shows you that if you add chunks of ham, it makes it more savory. and someone ELSE shows you that when you also add in romano cheese and a dash of seasonings, you can give the once-bland dish a heady array of flavors. and perhaps someone comes in and adds hot peppers, and you realize that you hate hot peppers, so you know what NOT to put in your mac n' cheese.

same thing with getting busy! :P

i'm not saying that you should be slinging your junk across town, but relationships are stronger when the sex is good, and practice + technique is a very important factor :)

IMO, until you're in your late 20s+, don't get too hung up on finding your husband or wife-to-be, and just have fun. A fling here, a few months' relationship there, etc. Life is long and there're a lot of fish in the sea. The only way to know if you've caught your favorite type of fish is if you try enough fish to be able to make a learned deduction.
 

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