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There are several scripts out there that allow you to customize the actor battle commands. Do a search on "custom actor battle command"
I don't know if they are available specifically for VX, or only XP.
You may need to submit a request to code the callback for "Skill subset". You will need to define in much detail how you need to filter the skills in the 'subset'.