Sex: How taboo do you think it should be?

[Feldschlacht IV]

This topic came along because usually sex is sort of a hush hush subject, especially on internet forums for whatever reason. Shh, you can't talk about that here! There are children around. *locks topic*. Of course there are real life equals to this as well! Sex is really a taboo subject for whatever reason! Hell, even my girlfriend is the same way, which I find especially hilarious because we're sexually active (with each other obviously).

I dunno, I always saw that as really dumb, and counterproductive. I was raised with sort of a similar attitude, but as I grew older, and as my parents had more children (I was the oldest and therefore a test product for their parenting) they saw how dumb it was to keep something so natural a big secret full of metaphors and they just talk straight about it. In fact, I believe that part of the reason for teen pregnancies, the spread of STDs, and general sexual irresponsibility is because of because of culture's hush/taboo attitude on sex. Why can't we be straight and honest and upfront about something so natural and universal?

Also, as a supplementary topic of discussion, what do you think the place is on sexual education in schools?

Discuss.

 

[Guest]

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[SolstICE]

stds are more common now that sex isnt as taboo as it was. stats for diseased people only been getting higher since the 50s and country censors relaxed

call your health clinic and they probably tell you over 1 in 4 people under 19 have stds. especially chlamidia

 

[Guest]

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[Ellie]

I'd like to know where those stats come from, since hardly anyone I know has an STD and nobody I know has actually been tested for an STD. If the stats come from people who have been tested for STDs, which must be the case, then it's obvious it's likely they'd have STDs (otherwise they wouldn't be having the tests).

Personally I don't see the point in it being taboo at all, and nobody's kept anything from me that I'd need to know (parents, teachers, etc).

 

[SolstICE]

from medical studies. stats nurses give of people who go in for tests might be higher. if someone has NEVER been tested that DOESNT mean they are clean. just means they are a moron if they say they are & not virgin. smart people get tested before every sexual relationship and always insist you do. can even get stds from touching each other

please tell your friends to get tested if not a single one has ever been. probably free where you live. diseased people usually look the same as without

arbiter contraception doesnt stop stds. condoms you mean? they barely do either except aids & stuff you can cure with drugs. almost as likely to get a gift that keeps on giving using them. condoms help a lot more with mouth stuff

 

[moog]

arbiter contraception doesnt stop stds. condoms you mean? they barely do either except stuff you can cure with drugs. almost as likely to get a gift that keeps on giving using them

lol what

condoms are 100% effective as long as they dont break.

 

[Dr. Funk]

Well sex is something that is a personal thing to some, I mean you wouldn't just walk up to your friend and tell him about the sex you just had, that's kinda creepy. But in the right situation it can make for a conversation, and shouldn't be considered as a "dirty" talk. But I still don't think it's something that can be considered casual conversation.

 

[mawk]

canada, I have a friend who does just that. idk it'd be creepy if he wasn't so laid-back.

kids should know about sex. end of story. if you try and shelter your precious baby from whatever corrupting influence you think is gonna be passed on, the kid is much more likely to go out and knock someone up or catch something out of sheer ignorance. there's no harm in informing a child about sex and the risks involved -- unless you're an awful parent or just plain sad at getting your point across, it's not like the kid's going to suddenly rush off to get laid the moment he learns about what goes where.

 

[Star]

I'm not sure. But I'm pretty sure you can still get some STDs (Not all) (If your partner has them) Even if you use a condom. Unless you're very careful about what is touching your partner. And honestly, I doubt you are.

At the OP. I totally agree with you there about Sex being hush hush and it shouldn't be. My girlfriend and I talk about it all the time and it's not something that we feel should be considered bad right off the start.

Sex is a natural and beautiful thing that will eventually create new life, Unless you're living a different lifestyle or don't want kids all together, or you can't have them for certain reasons. I think that if you do it with the right person that you love. Well. That's just awesome. :grin:

However if you're doing it just for the fun. Or for a good time. Or you have to give her/him cash first. Or you have multiple partners. That's not something I would brag about so.. You might want to keep that hush hush

 

[Guest]

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[craybest]

condoms stop spreading diseases that are passed on by penetration and stuff like that, there are certain std's that require just touching eachother and then you have it, luckily none of those are really life threatening or anything, most of them need just a simple medication to go off.
I think sex shouldn't be only between 2 people who love eachother deeply, I mean it's a lot better that way, but it doesn't substract the fact that sex itself is pleasurable. I see it as natural as eating, if people eat in front of eachother why do we need to hide from the rst of the world when we're having sex? it's basic instinct.
there are more std's around now because of 2 factors, first it's more socially acceptable to have sex before marriage at a young age. Before it was looked down. but more sexual education should come with this "open mindness", and that's the part that's heavily failing. at least around here sexual courses were laughable at best. basically it was like "don't have sex or you'll get aids!"
People are very misinformed about sex. Many people think they're virgins because when they had penetrative sex, the guy or her didn't reach the orgasm. and we're talking about 15-17 years old.

 

[Guest]

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[skirtboy]

The "hushing-up" of sex is something that has only happened quite recently. (In historical terms, at least.) Christianity didn't begin to attempt to regulate people's sex lives (apart from adultery, incest, and rape) until the 1600's. Even after that, it didn't become a taboo topic until the Victorian era, in which the English began to hush up sex out of respect for their widowed queen.

 

[Dissonance]

stds are more common now that sex isnt as taboo as it was. stats for diseased people only been getting higher since the 50s and country censors relaxed

Or this could be because AIDS has actually only recently appeared and is by far the most common STD.

If the stats come from people who have been tested for STDs, which must be the case, then it's obvious it's likely they'd have STDs (otherwise they wouldn't be having the tests).

Not true. I make sure that nearly every person I have sex with has a test beforehand, and I do as well, even if they claim to be STD-free (and I know I am as well.) It's just safety.

can even get stds from touching each other

Not true except under extreme circumstances.

Ultimately, sex should not be a taboo topic - we've done a decent job of de-taboo-ifying it but there's a lot more to go. Ideally, an individual should know about the biological and emotional aspects of sexual contact of all kinds before reaching puberty. If I ever have children (and i doubt i will but just in case) i guarantee I'm going to be extremely open with them in terms of sex - I have no intention of supressing my child's sexual desires (and crippling them emotionally in doing so) by telling them that homosexuality is wrong, or that monogamy within marriage is the only acceptable sexual conduct. My only insistance would probably be that any sexual contact they experience is done in a safe manner and with somebody they have an emotional connection (not limited to romantic relationships!)

Hey, guess what guys? Newborn babies have penises and vaginas. Human beings have sex organs and in terms of pleasurable sensations, they are functional from birth - a newborn baby's dick might not be able to shoot cum, but he can still experience orgasm, and there are studies showing that many children between the ages of 0 and 2 often masturbate in a rudimentary way. They may not understand the intricate ideas of sexuality and childbirth, but they DO know in a simplistic way that "touching X feels good." Children are not born tabula rasas, sexuality is not a corrupting influence, and keeping taboo something all human beings are born with from birth is completely absurd.

 

[Guest]

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[Dissonance]

AIDS has actually only recently appeared and is by far the most common STD.

Actually chlamydia is more common than aids which means aids can't be the most common std.

isn't chlamydia a sti though

 

[mawk]

I was under the impression that sti was merely the updated term for sexually-transmitted stuff (it's more correct from a medical standpoint or something idk) and that right now the two terms are pretty much interchangeable.

 

[Dissonance]

I was under the impression that sti was merely the updated term for sexually-transmitted stuff (it's more correct from a medical standpoint or something idk) and that right now the two terms are pretty much interchangeable.

I always thought sti referred to stuff transmitted sexually that can be eventually cured (hence INFECTION) with proper treatment while std referred to shit you've got for the rest of your life (hence DISEASE)

 

[Me(tm)]

People should talk about sex more often. It's great.

Also. AIDS is not an STD. HIV is.