Jbrist":2f9f6a91 said:
That's it, for some reason all girls like guys that can actually stand to sit there and listen to their rants...
well that's a matter of personality imo.
i, personally, am a very quiet sort. i never have much to say, outside of anecdotal humor or expressing interests.
but yeah awkward silences can kill on a date. think of them like interviews for jobs. you wouldn't want an awkward silence THERE, so you keep expressing reasons why you're the best person for the job. in this case, you have to demonstrate that you're the best plug for her socket. :kiss:
OH, and always give atleast 1 day between dates, mostly without contact, in the beginning! you never want to seem like you're desperate.
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Prexus":2f9f6a91 said:
Women like a man's smile, a good smile goes a long way.
They also love to hear their own name. Rather than saying 'you', try using her name. "So NAMEHERE, xquestion here?" or "Hahaha, that was really funny NAMEHERE."
yeah actually this is 100% true for some reason.
OH and if she establishes ANY physical contact--like brushing something off you, or tugging a sleeve, or grazing your hand with hers, etc.--it's a very good sign that she digs you.
Ditto for you (where you make even very light physical contact), but as a dude, you have to be more sparing/careful with it.
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On my 1st date with my bf, I knew I was head-over-heels within the first hour. We were just shooting the shit in a claustrophobic bar, and the conversation was amazing.
But wanting the 2nd date was definitely cemented when, as we were walking somewhere, he reached over and touched my elbow to call my attention to something to look at. i validated it by poking him after a sarcastic joke. it seems innocuous, but those two little touches meant
so much that I still remember them.
Weird, but ... Well, I can attest from 1st-hand experience that women are weird.
(Our second date had him taking me on a sunset boat ride. I can't more highly recommend that for a 2nd date :] )