General Dating Girls/Getting a GF/Relationship advice-thread

[Twirly]

Alright I kinda noticed that from time to time there used to be those douchebags asking for dating advice and acting like little faggots, so I thought instead of a bunch of shitty dating threads we could have one huge pile of shit.
Nah srsly though, I think this could be useful; I just thought I'd make a thread were people can post about their relationships and shit, ask for advice on dating girls or just tell us a story about a GF... idk lol

General Rules:
Be nice.
You don't have to follow someone's advice but at least be open-minded; otherwise you have no reason to ask for help here
Don't post advice if you are wyatt.

How to act when you're with a girl:
Be yourself (how generic i know)
Eye-contact
Don't stare at her tits.
Be confident
Don't be nervous when talking to her; she's probably as nervous as you are.
Don't treat her like a princess or she'll start acting like one.
Don't be her emotional dumpster.
No presents and shit; you can waste your money when you are with her.
Try to make some physical contact; this is important: you have to be very careful about physical contact, you could be more touchy with a girl but another girl might just freak out if you do the same shit with her, you have to work your way up a little, ya dig?
Don't be clingy (oh god i had to learn that in a hard and embarrassing way ;x)
Don't pull shit like talking to no girl but her, make yourself a bit available for other girls while keeping that one girl as your main target, otherwise you will look desperate rather than "loyal". This one again depends on the girl; you might not want to look like a total player or some shit, you know?
finding a topic which interests both of you might help you connect

That's about it on my part, post your shit too ;O

 

[Ceiling_Cat]

What a pile of contradictions and copypasted-and-never-checked advice. Then again, those petty affairs you kids call relationships seem silly to me either way. And I thought the bullshit of /r9k/ and /adv/ won't haunt me in a place like this.

 

[Twirly]

What a pile of contradictions and copypasted-and-never-checked advice. Then again, those petty affairs you kids call relationships seem silly to me either way. And I thought the bullshit of /r9k/ and /adv/ won't haunt me in a place like this.

 

[dadevvtsvre]

What a pile of contradictions and copypasted-and-never-checked advice. Then again, those petty affairs you kids call relationships seem silly to me either way. And I thought the bullshit of /r9k/ and /adv/ won't haunt me in a place like this.

what's your point? :/

I never really found talking to ~*~girls~*~ all that difficult but I realize that some guys really do have a very hard time with it. A lot of guys focus too much on what they should and shouldn't do, but unless you're an antisocial hermit that hangs out with only a very specific type of person talking to a f-f-female shouldn't be hard. Just relax and have a conversation like you would with anybody.

Maybe I only hang with a bunch of level-headed people but I haven't known anyone that has had difficulties talking to the other gender since we were 13. If you're older than 16 and still get intimidated by guys/girls then you need to get out of your personal bubble and leave your comfort zone.

 

[Twirly]

yeah i agree with devvy there, talking to a girl shouldnt be difficult but you can still do a lot wrong when you actually want to get into a relationship with her, you know
also dev are you still in a relationship, i know you had a new gf a while back

 

[dadevvtsvre]

yeah, we're still dating. it actually kind of started over a mutual love of webcomics and funny internet things. :blush:

finding and talking about stuff you're both interested in helps a bunch too!

 

[Ellie]

To be honest I've never really found myself wanting to date anyone, never had the time or just never been a good time. I don't generally have trouble talking to girls, just a general inability to look anyone in the eye which I always think is going to make them think I'm not interested or something.

Of course saying that, a girl did ask me out once and I couldn't say yes, I wanted to but my mouth wouldn't talk. Never saw her again after that, she was like my best friend :'(

 

[Twirly]

yeah, we're still dating. it actually kind of started over a mutual love of webcomics and funny internet things. :blush:

finding and talking about stuff you're both interested in helps a bunch too!

haha that's cute
also added the mutual interest thing to the OP

To be honest I've never really found myself wanting to date anyone, never had the time or just never been a good time. I don't generally have trouble talking to girls, just a general inability to look anyone in the eye which I always think is going to make them think I'm not interested or something.

no man, if eye-contact does anything it makes you look interested ;x
it maybe hard at first but just try it and you'll get used to it in no time!

 

[Cryranos]

I have no trouble talking to girls since I'm gay. :tongue: But seriously, women aren't dumb.

Make sure to treat her like a human, an equal.

The golden rule applies. Unless you have a rape fantasy. It's easier to think of what to say and do when you imagine yourself in the place of your date.

 

[moog]

What a pile of contradictions and copypasted-and-never-checked advice. Then again, those petty affairs you kids call relationships seem silly to me either way. And I thought the bullshit of /r9k/ and /adv/ won't haunt me in a place like this.

whats up dr. virgin how's not having sex feel like?

honestly dont post if you are going to make trollbait like this

 

[bluehazed]

I've had pretty good luck treating chicks how you treat other human beings, but the physical contact thing is a pretty good indicator for attraction; you can usually tell when someone is touching you on purpose.

 

[Twirly]

also where do you guys go to to meet girls (please dont tell me clubbing hahaha) or does it ~~just happen~~ I myself haven't met a nice girl in quite a while.

 

[Aepriz]

Try to make some physical contact; this is important: you have to be very careful about physical contact, you could be more touchy with a girl but another girl might just freak out if you do the same shit with her, you have to work your way up a little, ya dig?

Accually a guy should never make the FIRST self-aware physical contact. At the beginning of the year we had some kind of relationship psychologist talk about relations and she said that that is the key to a good succesfull relation.

also where do you guys go to to meet girls (please dont tell me clubbing hahaha) or does it ~~just happen~~ I myself haven't met a nice girl in quite a while.

If you live in a big city just walk to mall or shopping center, most girl show interest as long as you have the balls to talk to them (and how bad can it be to hit a wrong ball). My school is in the second biggest city in Belgium, on days like this the city is filled with peopple so just choose one and start talking.

 

[moog]

twirly i thought you ragequitted

 

[Twirly]

nah i didn't lol

 

[moog]

oh ;[

 

[Eventing_Guy]

I belive there are Many types of people in the world...
I don't think that this advise would work [on/for] everyone.


But people have the tendency to be shallow.


All the girls I have met are just looking for:

- Prince Charming (Love at first Sight)
- Handsome
- Rich and sucessful
- Perfect Physical features

I have none of the feature mentioned


It's unfortunite, but even if I were to follow all the advise in
the world... For me... The best I could even hope to achieve
is being in the friend zone. :sad:

 

[LiquidMetal91]

i've had a "Prince Charming" moment on someone...

took me 6 months to muster up the courage to ask her to start dating..
3 months later she says she lost the "feeling" (this was bout 1.5 month ago)

women are weird -.-

 

[Ellie]

I think most people looking for a girl/boyfriend are generally doing it for shallow reasons.

I'd be happy with just someone to talk to; but then I guess that doesn't have to be a girl.

Does sex always have to be the goal?

 

[Venetia]

you guys are just young. when seeking a relationship, no, sex isn't the goal.
it's an important facet, but not the goal.

an actual partner you you should actually do anything with more than bone will be looking for personality traits, not physicality.

confidence -- even faked -- is 100% the most important factor ever.

gotta seem like you respect yourself to gain the respect of another.